Wife on instalments!


They got her married to someone who was already married. He was rich even if not around for most of the year. He worked in UAE, or was it Saudi Arabia? Doesn't matter!

She fell in love with a Mirasian da munda, a boy from a different village who worked at a barber shop in the town. This Mirasi boy brought her home. A marriage was registered between the two before a district judge who she told that she was divorced from her first husband. 

A few weeks later, the first husband's family contested the divorce claim. The court asked for a proof from her.

 The Mirasi family had saved some money by selling an old house to buy a new (bigger) one. This money was now spent on lawyers, court fees and police. Some of it was also spent on feasting relatives and friends for their support.

 The girl’s parents and her (first) husband’s family wanted her back. They approached an influential person in Mirasi's village through an influential person in their own village. A panchayat was convened to decide the fate of the runaway wife.  

 More than fifty people (men) from both sides gathered on five occasions at the place of the influential. Private meetings were also arranged between the girl and her parents. She refused to go with them or to go back her original (first) husband. But the panchayat decided to send her with her parents anyway. 

The Mirasi family could not put up much resistance to the decision. It had already cost them dearly while trying to keep their new daughter-in-law with them. They were also losing support of their relatives in this matter who they could not continue feasting. The girl was not willing to go anywhere at any cost. As she vowed to not follow the panchayat's decision, the two families agreed to drug and dispatch her with her parents to the first first husband's house. He was back from Dubai, or was it Saudia?!

 The case seemed to be resolved. But after a couple of weeks, the first husband contacted the Mirasi village influential: “My people want me to kill her for bringing shame to our family... but I can’t do that because I love her!”.

If he didn't kill her, he must sell her. He was told. That would satisfy his family. “Can you ask the Mirasi to take her back for 2 lac rupees ($1200 USD approx)?” He pleaded with the influential.

The mirasi agreed. She moved back with him. They paid half the amount upfront and the remaining half in four instalments.

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